Satish had noticed that Rahim didn’t seem like himself these days. He had been missing out on a lot more classes. Whenever they did meet, he seemed very irritated and it was difficult to have a smooth conversation with him. He had also noticed that he had been drinking a lot more. He was concerned for his friend but wasn’t sure what to do. Satish was worried that if he asked him directly about it, he might get annoyed and stop talking to him.Initiation
As students living together, you are bound to have the most interactions with your classmates across different situations and know them well. This also means that you’re most likely to notice if someone is going through some difficulties and if there have been any changes in their behaviour. Sometimes, you may be unsure about whether they are simply upset and will cope with it on their own or if they have been feeling distressed for a while and need help to feel better.
The best way, in either case, is to simply have a conversation and get more information about what they are experiencing. Remember, it is always okay to check if you sense someone is in distress. This is especially important if you know they’ve experienced something significant lately (any loss, difficulty in academics, major life transitions/changes).
If your friend says, they are not comfortable discussing what they’re going through, respect their space. Tell them that you’re available if at any point they feel like they are ready and need someone to listen to them ("Whenever you're ready, know that I'm here').