Finding your own unique positive ways to motivate yourself is a wonderful attribute and is worth cultivating.
This mural in the boat house always reminds me of the negative thoughts that take root in us and create a hole in our self confidence. Negative thoughts, in some form of the other, plague all of us:
“what if nobody likes me and I am left alone”
“what if somebody finds out that I am not good enough”
“what if somebody thinks I did not try hard enough”
I think many of these negative thoughts stem from a feeling of being incomplete. But, the question I often ask myself is, what if we were born complete and the journey, in life, is to keep playing with our strengths and to engineer different versions of our own selves? Arriving at this perspective has been a difficult journey for me, for growing up I was fraught with self doubt and a habit of thinking I was never enough. But negative thoughts, as you might realise, weigh you down and retard your growth. Imagine a bird trying to fly with a box full of junk tied to their feet. Heavier the box, shorter the flight.
For a long time I thought that negative thoughts served a purpose in my life and they propelled me to work hard and better myself. In fact for a long time I fed off the negative energy from those who did not believe in me to somehow work hard and prove myself. However this embittered me and made me angry. As I became more aware of the hole inside of me owing to these negative thoughts I chose to redefine myself and created more positive ways to motivate myself. So here are some that I think that might help you as well:
Some of these thoughts may resonate with you and some may not. But finding your own unique positive ways to motivate yourself is a wonderful attribute and is worth cultivating. I end with a quote from a book that has had an impact on my life “Letters to a Young Poet” by Rainer Maria Rilke “Perhaps all the dragons in our lives are princesses who are only waiting to see us act, just once, with beauty and courage. Perhaps everything that frightens us is, in its deepest essence, something helpless that wants our love.” And for all the moments when I have doubted myself Rilke’s words have encouraged me to act with “beauty and courage”.